Does this seem like getting back together or friends with benefits?

In January I started dating this guy, and we had an absolutely awesome relationship going. His best friend/roommate and I used to date and was upset about my new relationship and took it upon himself to start drama. He lied to force a wedge in the relationship, and since my ex couldn't get 100% clarity on what happened between his friend and I (fooled around, no ... 4 years ago!) he broke it off. He wanted to stay friends, but I said no. After a few days we ended up hanging out, and after a week of hanging out we slept together on accident. We talked about it, and decided to cut the ties. Again, a few days later we start hanging out... another week into it we sleep together again. I suggest just casually dating and taking some time to build trust instead of diving back into our relationship. He said he'd think about it, but never ended up discussing it. I send him a text saying I can't see him on a platonic level and if he doesn't want anything more than "friends" then I need him to stay away. And it happens again... a few days later we talk and I go hang out with him and his buddies. He invites me to stay the night, but I decide to leave. We hang out the next day and go for a hike. He invited me to a work party this weekend, we made plans to go hiking again, and all these great things, but there was nothing physical going on. Yesterday we decide to grab dinner and after he invites me over to meet his cousin that's in town for work. We stay up chatting about family and life, and by the end of the night we can't keep our hands off eachother. We had been drinking a bit, so that definitely led to lack of inhibitions a bit. We slept together, but had an amazing connection. Spent the whole night cuddling, kissing, and woke up this morning and it was the same thing. We're supposed to hang out tomorrow, Saturday and Sunday... I can't decide if he's trying to put down the BS from the past and move forward in a relationship, or if we're falling into friends with benefits territory... I care about this guy so much... I want more from him, but I do know he has trust/relationship issues that we have talked about. We talk about everything. I want to respect him and take things at a slow pace, but I can't decide if dating is in the cards or where we stand. I fear falling into this trap and then one day he's dating a new girl and I'm going to be extremely hurt. I just don't know what to think/do/say right now... every time we talk about "us" after this happens we cut the ties, and a few days later we're talking repeating the cycle again. We broke up in Feb, so in 2 months we've only slept together 3 times. The second time we did, he actually stopped and said he didn't want to hurt me again. This time we just went with it like it was completely natural. Help!! I DO NOT know what tot think... He has told his friends that our relationship was short, and yet it was the best thing he'd had in years... he says he can't take a chance on falling in love with someone if there's any doubt... the doubt being what happened 4 years ago with his roommate and I. I'm so confused by this guy....